Wednesday, 7 October 2015

Why so Evil?

                                                                                      Photo credit: Brian Suda

Whenever something good happens, I often hear people say, don't tell to everyone "nazar lag jayegi" (getting an evil eye). Funnily, many a times evil eye or not those moments are being ruined as well. But more I think, it makes even less sense than before.

I mean if evil eye concept should have worked than why does it only works locally? Why doesn't Bill Gates gets any poor just because millions of people feel jealous! But then what about all those bad things which happen immediately after those happy occasions? ( and trust me they do)

Well, I guess its the balance of life. It's not about whether you share it with people or just keep it to yourself. But when you feel that profound happiness, you kinda run out of your quota (eventually). We anticipate too much, our expectations are all time high so obviously we have to come down at some point. I have personally tried the option of keeping good news to myself just to see if it works ( no am not that jobless as you think) and what I felt was it sometimes does and sometimes doesn't. So we are back to probabilities. At the end somethings are destiny ( no it's not an excuse for not working hard, this stuff exists!)

It is assumed that people like hearing problems in others life or they feel comforted by others suffering. Maybe some but I am sure there are lot of people who actually feel sad or depressed by it. For example, when I hear someone break up or if someone fail after they struggled for years, I truly feel morbid. Not because I am an angel or something but because somehow I try to connect to all these stories. When I hear someone achieve their dream I feel hopeful that maybe I can do it too. I am sure many of us feel encouraged by others success.

I think we underestimate humankind. I agree it has it's own flaws, as I said there will be some folks who would try to pull you down or make you feel miserable but there are lot of others who genuinely believe in goodwill.

What's important to remember is everyone has their share of good and bad going on (not in equal share I agree). But it does, it's just that somethings are more visible than others. Someone may look healthy, rich and successful but for all you know he will be more unhappy than you and me for reasons unknown to us. When we see or meet someone we should not judge them or compare ourselves to them. Because you can only compare materialistic things, you can never compare your lives in true sense.

So forget about getting evil eye and things like that, when you are happy don't restrain yourself. Regardless of whether you "shout it out from rooftop" or not, good phase will end. But when you are part of it, celebrate it with your friends and family without any hesitation and maybe you will outlive beyond this cycle of good-bad.

No bird in a cage has ever come to know what the mountain winds feel like, by staring at the free flying birds, wishing that they would fall from the sky!
                                                                                                       ― C. JoyBell C.


  1. Lovely perspective, Rekha! When people say you look good, nazar na lage, I always wondered, they said something good so what has that got to do with evil then?

    1. Thank you :) Hope you have a carefree happy life forever :)