Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Dreamers and Realists

Dreams. What is it about dreams which even though conveys something surreal and unachievable makes it somehow hopeful and desirable. We all have had dreams at some point in our lives, most of which we hardly remember anymore. Then of course there are some who dream more often than others. Rather, those who believe in their dreams more strongly. Is there anything wrong about dreaming? I would say no. I mean it is a very natural human behavior. In fact all those who have achieved great things have been great dreamers. Einstein was a dreamer and so was Mozart. How do I know it? Because they had a vision. Everyone believes what they see and hear but to see something which doesn't exist. To believe when you have everything going against you, that is being a true dreamer. I am sure the first person to sit back and stare at night sky and say " I want to go to moon " was laughed at and ridiculed. It must have been hilarious when Wright Brothers said they want to fly. Dreams could be silly or most impractical but that's what makes them so great. Because each dream has a potential to come true.

Which brings us to Realists. Although we commonly use realist as synonym to pessimist, that's not entirely true. A realist accepts the world as it literally is and uses facts and past events into consideration. Realism is what happens when we start growing old. With experience we start seeing flaws in our perfect plans to achieve that dream. To be honest more often realism is a buzz killer.
 For Example :
 Dreamer -" I want to be a great singer"
 Realist - " I don't have a good voice to become singer so give it up!"

Now the difference between our dreams and that of great achievers mentioned before are that they actually made their dreams come true. They didn't just think about it and leave. But those who knows their challenges and short comings but still decide to go ahead and work on making that dream a reality are the one's who go back with a smile.

I always saw myself as a realist who wants to be a dreamer. Or maybe it is the other way around. Nonetheless, as I sat confused and little lost I heard someone say something which made perfect sense.

“There are dreamers and there are realists in this world, you think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists, but more often than not the opposite is true. See the dreamers need the realists to keep the dreamers from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists? Well without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground”.

I think each of us have a dreamer and realist inside us. And sometimes they need to work together to cherish in life.

Sunday, 21 June 2015


I watched you wash away
was it dust or just some dusty moments
I sat there, in the comfort
was it my room or the warmth of your arms

It rained day and night for first few days
lightning tearing apart inky sky
coherent silence only broken by occasional thunder
world felt doomed at mercy of devilish wimp

But then one day it stopped
gloomy clouds began to shatter
and a single flicker dazzled the night
dancing on relics of bygone age

As I lay there basking the glorious morning
keeping a watchful eye on horizon
he said,'but my dear, eventually it all turns out right
we may falter in darkness but eventually it always dawns...'

Thursday, 11 June 2015

Same Love

I sat and thought for a long time to write something funny. But there is nothing funny about Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code. This section dates back to 1860 and was introduced during British Rule of India ( Note: Even Britain abolished it in recent past).

Section 377, IPC reads as:
“377. Unnatural offences.—Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal, shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine."
I think the first reaction which comes from the majority is 'Ah..OK..so? Why should I care? '

Of course you can choose to ignore the entire context from your life and most probably it would change nothing in your life. But you could say the same thing about walking past a stranger who is lying down injured from an accident. No one is going to sue you for not helping. All that would effect is that tiny little thing called consciousness. Why is that? Because we don't call ourselves animals. We like to be called  'HumanKind'. That should mean something. I am sure most of us care about the society we live in. It should matter to us if we were to find something unfair. I don't suggest that there should be any kind of  special consideration or reservation ( somehow that seemed OK for casteism). No,I don't support any such privileges. But least we can do is let them be. Isn't criminalization little too barbaric for a country which boosts of democracy and secularism?

Now, to the section of people who say ' It serves them good. Such indecency should not be entertained! ' I am just lost.

For a long time I was angry at such people. But after considerable amount of thought I am absolutely lost. Because I just don't seem to understand their thought process. I tried talking to people and find out their side of argument but I couldn't get a good enough valid reason. Most of the times they go into an offensive verbal spree as if I had questioned their orientation! or sometimes they make some lame excuse about against religion. I mean are you telling me that each one of us are living as per the textbook ( in this case holy scripture ). Really? Because I can guarantee we are not.

And the most confusing term is " against the order of nature".Now this gets me everytime. Do you think that these people forcefully are putting themselves in this position, against all odds to feel different? You really think that they would spend an entire life hiding it from their loved ones, living in lie and suffer in all the guilt and loneliness on purpose?

It is with adherence to nature that some are born different. Nature treats everyone same. Last time I checked sun didn't refuse to shine on gay folks!

The only valid reason I can comprehend is fear. We fear what is unknown. We fear what is different. If you fear that it is contagious or something then you are most certainly wrong. Biggest boon and curse of your sexuality is that no one can change it. If it is ignorance which is source of such hatred then I suggest researching on it and enlighten yourself. And if it is pure loathing to everything which is different and which you can't fully understand and agree upon, well then, there is no hope.

The other day I read an article about Hinduism, it said ' The Vedas recognize the marriage between a man and a woman only. Such a marriage may happen either with or without consent.' I am not even sure if our Vedas say that. But if they do, then I am extremely sad to hear it. Because I believe marriage is when two people share love, respect and deeply care for each other. Maybe they will experience these emotions after their journey has started and take their own sweet time. But it is
not just a relationship between a man and a woman.

It is not a crime for two people to love each other and wanting to spend their lives together. I don't think it is a crime for two adults to engage in consensual acts if they want to. But I do think it is a crime if  people are forced to hide their true identity and in doing so forced into marriage or such commitments where both the parties suffer. I think forced sex is a crime. And it doesn't matter what how old you are, what skin color you have or what gender you belong to.

We have enough number of bad guys in this world...rapists, murderers, terrorists, kidnappers,robbers, frauds ..list can go on. But prejudicing because they are different from you? Nah...We are better than that. It is easy to hate. But world could do with little love right now. If that's too much to ask, then least it could do with is tolerance.

Tuesday, 2 June 2015

Fruits Basket

Before you start looking up for apples and oranges let me clarify, fruits basket is an anime. For those unfamiliar with the term it refers to Japanese animation ( no it is not just a cartoon series).

The protagonist of this anime is a teenager named 'Tohru Honda' who one would say to be "too-good-to-be-true" character. Once one of her friend confesses that he is not as kind hearted person as what everyone considers him to be.He says, he is only kind because he wants people to like him. To which Tohru says
"My mom told me, people aren't born with kind hearts. When we are born, all we have are desires for food and material things. Selfish instincts, I guess. But she said that kindness is something that grows inside each person, but it's upto us to nurture that kindness in our hearts. That's why kindness is different for every person".

I wouldn't go into the details of this anime but instead would recount another incident from the same. Below is the story which one of the character 'Momiji Sohma' narrates.

This story is called 'The Most Foolish Traveler in the World' .

Once upon a time, there was a foolish traveler who had gone on a journey. Why was he foolish? Well, because he was fooled by everyone he met! Everywhere he went, people made up all kinds of sad stories to tell him. The traveler fell for every one of them.

Please, some money for medicine...? 

I have a sick younger sister...

I don't have money to buy seeds to plant in my fields.

Pretty soon,his money, his clothes, even his shoes had been cheated away from him.However, the foolish traveler was always glad to help. For everyone of them, he'll smile and say, "I wish you happiness". But by this point, the traveler was completely naked, and with nothing left to cover himself. He decided to leave the main road and travel through the dense forest, where no one could see him...

Soon, he was discovered by the goblins that lived in the woods. The goblins wanted to eat the traveler's body. So they begged and pleaded, and used kind words to try and trick him...of course, the traveler was fooled.First, he let the goblins eat one of his legs, then an arm, then more and more...

Before it was over, all that the traveler had left was his head. He had even given his eyes away to the last of the goblins...And as the last of the goblin was eating the traveler's eyes, he turned and said "thank you, traveler. In return, I leave you this present". 

What the goblin left was a slip of paper, with the word "Fool" written on it. 

The traveler couldn't see it. He didn't know what it was. Even so, tears began to flow down his face." thank you", he said. " This is the first present anyone ever gave me. I'm so happy. I'm so happy. Thank you".

Even without his eyes, he cried and cried great tears of joy. Then, the traveler died, with a smile on his face...and that's the end of the story.

Momiji Sohma continues... I close my eyes and think about him a little bit longer. I think about how he had given everything away...until all he had left was his head...and how at the end, he still cried for joy as he said thank you. And then..I realized I feel sorry for him. see? Loss, hardship, things like that? you can't focus on them. The traveler didn't...he never thought about his troubles at all. I imagine that it probably does sound really foolish to some people. But I don't think he's foolish at all. Even though other people think he was tricked, I don't think he was. I think he did exactly what he wanted to do. I think more than anything, he just wanted to make others happy. What do you think? Really? Is that foolish? When you close your eyes and think about it, is that what it is?

Now these characters, much like the story narrated are fictional. As I mentioned earlier "too-good-to-be-true" . If I think logically and from my own experience that may be so. But then why do I like them? I think it's because it gives me hope. And more importantly, it makes me want to evolve myself into a better person. I can never become someone like that, but I can try. Maybe one day I would be able to experience that joy and smile like our foolish traveler.